Just say something

Tonight I was talking with my sister-in-law, Monica. She told me that she had been reading my blog and apologized in case she had ever said anything to offend me. I guess when I write about what people should know about pregnancy loss, it makes everybody on edge because they realize that they might say something I don't want to hear. Don't worry about that though! Nobody should feel like they need to apologize to me. Monica has been one of the main people I have been able to talk to over the past few months. When I think about her, I think about somebody who truly cares about how I feel and who will listen to me ramble on and on about what I have been going through. There is no reason she should ever apologize to me! :)

So, what is most important for others to know is not what "not to say", but rather...just say something. Like I told Monica tonight, not a single person has offended me. Yes, there have been a couple of comments that made me cringe, but you know what I remember? It's not their words, but rather the fact that the person cared enough to talk to me about Ada. So if you know anybody who is going through something like this, or really any hard times at all, don't fret over what to say or not to say. Just say something. And listen. Because that is what they will remember in the end.